It's human nature to want to operate independently. In some cases, being independent is a good thing. When it comes to our relationship with God, however, we need to be dependent. Operating from a place of dependence in Christ is not only what He wants for our relationship with Him, it's then reflected on how we go about living our day to day lives.
When we have goals for our lives - whether these are short term or long term goals - they position us to have focus and an end in mind.
Often at this time of year, you will hear people talk about how they are trying to be intentionally grateful in preparation for Thanksgiving, but have you thought about what would happen if we actually began to thank the Lord IN all of the circumstances of our lives, whether great or difficult?" "Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks IN all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus." 1 Thess. 4:13.
It is important to understand what your God-given identity is once you have surrendered your life to Christ. Your identity is now in Him! 2 Corinthians 5: 17 says, “Therefore if anyone is in Christ, He is a new creation. The old has gone, the new has come.”